Are you experiencing domestic abuse?
Are you looking for information or help for your partner?
- You are not to blame. The domestic abuse perpetrator is 100% responsible and it’s up to them to ask for help to change. You can’t do it for them.
- Even if the abuser gets help for their violence and abuse, it doesn’t always mean they’ll change.
- Couples therapy, mediation, anger management or individual counselling for the abuse are not safe interventions if your relationship is abusive.
- Help and support is available for you.
"The Advisor helped me to understand how I make choices and how, when confronted, there are other, more mature ways of expressing and coping with my anger."Rose
Female victims of domestic abuse
A lot of women experiencing domestic abuse want the abuse to end, but love their partner and hope that they’ll change and the relationship will continue. Others want to end the relationship, but are scared or overwhelmed.
If your partner is receiving support to change, you might feel under pressure to give the relationship another chance. It’s important to remember, though, that not everyone changes. Some change a little, but they won’t be transformed.
It’s important that you get some help and support for yourself, so that you can do what’s right for you and your children. And it’s still okay for you to choose to end the relationship, even if the perpetrator changes.
How will you know if your abusive partner is changing?
This downloadable leaflet explains the signs of change in an abusive partner.
Male victims of domestic abuse
Men experience domestic abuse too, and often they find it hard to speak out about it. They might be worried about seeming weak, or worry that they will be blamed or won’t be believed.
Men who experience domestic abuse are facing a unique set of challenges. Our friendly Men’s Advice Line advisors are specially trained to offer you emotional support, as well as the practical advice and information that you need right now.
Call freephone 0808 8010327, or visit www.mensadviceline.org.uk
Help and support for women experiencing domestic abuse
In an emergency, always call 999 for urgent assistance.
These helplines will be able to give you confidential advice, support and information
The 24hr freephone National Domestic Violence Helpline is available on
0808 2000247 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Scotland’s Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline is available on
0800 0271234 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- Northern Ireland
The 24-Hour Domestic and Sexual Abuse Helpline is available on
0808 8021414 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
The Live Fear Free Helpline is available on 08088010800 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.